Aniruddha Live(FB)- Mental Health Series Video 2
This is the matter of my FB live on 21st June, 2020. You can watch the video here
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Good
Evening friends, welcome to the second video of mental health series. You might
like to watch the first one if you haven’t seen it yet. The link is given in
the description. It was made in the aftermath of the unfortunate and untimely
death of actor Sushant Singh Rajput.
Happy
International Yoga day and a very happy Father’s Day. While as I have already
said that I am not a great fan of having a specific day for such things, yet no
harm in wishes. Yoga by the way is very good for both physical and mental
health.
In the
mentioned live video, I requested that anybody who has any kind of
problems-psychological or something that may have their origin in the psyche to
get in touch with me personally and I would be more than happy to be of help. A
lot of people have come in touch and I am glad to say that my efforts have so
far been in the positive. While in some cases we have seen drastic improvements
in most others slow but steady improvement signs have been observed.
Today, I
am going to discuss one of my cases. I feel that this is a very common problem
and I have a feeling that a lot of people may benefit from the case study.
As per my
promise, complete confidentiality about the persons involved will be maintained
and no details regarding the identity of the subject will be disclosed in any
way. We will just review the case as an example.
The friend
of mine, well she is not a friend in the true sense but more of an
acquaintance. Let us call her X for the convenience of the narration.
X got in
touch with me about a few days back. To understand the problem, I may have to
elucidate a bit about her background. X has been a studious person and a
brilliant student for most of her life. She is at present working in a government
concern holding a responsible post. Her position entails her to some amount of
procurement for her employer. She looks after the materials management and
holds certain limited financial sanctioning powers within the
organization.
However,
these very financial responsibilities got her in a soup. She was charged with
corruption and misappropriation of funds. Her case was under investigation and
a preliminary departmental inquiry has been initiated by her organization’s
management. The night she called me up was just before the day of her first
personal appearance in front of the departmental inquiry team.
Now when
she called me, she was almost insane with fear of direct interrogation by the
team. From what she told me, it was more due to procedural lapse that she has
got herself into this trouble and it wasn’t an intentional financial
mis-management. Some of her seniors, who were not happy with her for reasons
best known to them have helped in framing her and even use their influence to
initiate a strong inquiry against her.
While it
was impossible for me to ascertain the truth of her version of the story there
was one thing that I was certain about. If X is not guilty and doesn’t want to
worsen her situation further, she needs to get back to her senses. She was so
tensed that she can hardly think about anything, she hasn’t slept for the last
three days and she was almost driven crazy by anxiety at that point of time
when we were interacting over the video chat. She looked pale, sick and visibly
insane. Under these circumstances she won’t be able to put up even the
slightest defence during the interrogation and would prove herself a sitting
duck for the enquiry commission. She has started believing that this is the end
of her career and may be her life is turning out to be meaningless.
There was
one more problem here. Just telling her to be positive and invoking the fighter
spirit would not work in this situation. She is on the verge of a serious
depression and anything like that will only irritate her to cut off from me and
anyone else who might want to help her out.
I tried a
technique that I have read a long time ago. I told her to take a long breath
and take out a pen and a piece of paper. I agreed with the fact that the
situation is very bad but I also pointed out to her that accusation is not
conviction. I told her to write down what is the worst thing that may happen if
she bombs the interrogation tomorrow?
It took
her some time to settle her mind and write them down. She realised as she wrote
and we kept discussing, that this is just a preliminary appearance and would
not be decisive in itself. Even though this may have huge impact on further
proceedings. The worst that can happen in this particular appearance is that
she may be put under suspension-and that’s also likely to happen only if she
says nothing against the accusation and remains silent about her role in the
particular case. This would weaken her position for the next hearing, where she
may or may not be convicted.
Now I told
her to accept the situation. You will be suspended; you still have a chance to
fight and to appeal to higher authorities if things go against you. You won’t
lose your job right away and you won’t suffer much disrepute before the results
are out.
Once I was
able to convince her to accept her fate, I told her to now focus on the way out
from the problem. The moment she accepted the worst, her attitude towards the
problem changed miraculously. It basically allowed her to focus on the solution
and stop thinking of the problem, which was in a way blocking her brain’s
capacities so far. Her inability to think was now over.
As our
discussion went on, she was able to recall the chain of events, the other
responsible persons involved in the case, the underlying bye-laws of the organization
that fixed the responsibilities and came up with a few documents that she can
produce before the enquiry team. We even wrote down a few arguments that she
can put in favour of her innocence.
And, guess
what, she also slept well that night.
The results
that she obtained were miraculous. X managed to convince the authorities about
her innocence and the case was dismissed in the very preliminary stage. The
person who almost went into critical depression is now a much happier person as
she tides through her regular duties. Even regular day to day things that she
used to find tedious seems interesting to her now.
So,
friends try out this technique when you feel lost in any situation. There are
other techniques that I will keep sharing through my live videos. If you have a
particular problem-whatever be it, relationship, inability to focus, not
getting the life you want, anxiety, depression, negativity etc you can get in
touch with me personally. As, already said identities are strictly confidential.
Open up, you are not alone in this and a lot more may benefit from your action.
I will
sign off for today. Do check out the description below. Hope to hear from you
soon. Take care and stay safe. Bbye.
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